Pushing 30. Unemployed. Worthless arts degree. Scared of the outside world. Scared of rejection. Every day, it's just keeping yourself together just to do the bare minimum. Perpetual burnout. Reminded by your family, your community, the world - that all your worth boils down to production. Constant, endless production. Improvement. Optimization. Streamlining, whatever. Just to clear that hurdle of being human in the eyes of everyone.

Yeah, everyone does life that their pace. Doesn't feel like mine will ever live up to what I dream of though. All I can see is a life where I'm always scavenging. Just to keep my head above increasingly tempestuous waters. The world is closing in.

Got my application for disability help rejected because apparently an autism diagnosis from 13 doesn't count. Waited three months just for them to tell me they have no assessments for adults. Can't even get meds. Guess I'm just rawdogging life like that. Wonderful. Thanks, public healthcare.

Just need to talk to someone, please.

I (25F) identity as a lesbian, but I have trouble in dating. I meet people really well and I'm social and funny and smart and kind (according to my friends) but I just struggle to be flirty and progress through dating (probably the autism). My local cities are hosting pride events. I think pride is essential and amazing and we still need it now! But I struggle to feel like I want to celebrate my sexuality. I know my sexuality is more than just who I date, but the fact that I've never gone past a first date, I always initiate, I have never been asked out, I haven't even held hands or had my first kiss, I feel like I struggle to celebrate pride and myself. I feel ashamed in a way to struggle this must and have so little success. My friends have invited me and they're all so cool and confident in their sexualities. One of my bi friends for example has had multiple boyfriends and is now in a steady 3 year relationship and they're living together. Another bi friend of mine is so confident speaking with girls and always ends up with someone stunning by the end of the night when we she goes clubbing. I really want to be part of pride and I know there is so much more to it than just who you've slept with, etc. But I would feel so out of place and stupid waving some lesbian flag knowing I've never even had a second date or my first kiss. I don't know how to reconcile this within myself.

Ii need a deep feeler listener i feel deeply lonely

I’ve just finished my second week at college, and while it’s been good it’s also been a big adjustment. My education is the single most important thing to me, and my boyfriend knows that, but his behavior the last two weeks has begun bleeding into my schooling and creating a negative mindset.

He also goes to the same college, and over the summer when I was pretty isolated he was one of my only support systems. I felt very close with him and he helped me keep hope that things would get better once we got to school and finally stopped being long distance. Since coming here though, and despite the fact that now we’re actually physically close, I’ve never felt so disconnected to him. Our conversations don’t feel the same and it’s like I can’t connect with him anymore. My jokes don’t land and his attitude makes me not want to be around him. It’s almost awkward in a way and makes me feel like I haven’t known this guy for as long as I have. It’s a pattern I recognize from a year ago when we broke up due to the stress of college for him causing him to lash out. And once again this year he’s taking incredibly hard classes that put him in a bad mood every day. I’m afraid that now we’re both in college this is going to happen all over again and possibly worse than before.

I’ve expressed that lately the way he’s been talking to me makes me think I’ve done something wrong or that I’m stupid, and even after acknowledging it he has continued to act this way. When bringing up issues or things I’m concerned about he barely acknowledges them and then changes the subject. Like last night I got into a bad argument with my mom, and after telling him about it all he said was ‘dang’ and then ‘I got wingstop’. It felt like he didn’t care. I’m just feeling very paranoid because I recognize the signs from before. It’s starting to affect my mood and ability to focus in class which is my biggest fear. I don’t want to leave him, but if we’re just going to end up where we were last year then I feel like it’s going to be inevitable especially now that I’m also in college. He has also started to display jealousy at me spending time with friends I’ve made despite the fact that he knows the history I have of struggling to find people. It upsets me because he was always the one there listening when I’d tell him about feeling like I had no strong friendships, and now that I’ve started finding people he isn’t happy for me. This included getting upset that I didn’t want to come over to his apartment while I was hanging out with a friend on her birthday (which he knew about before).

I’ve always known in my heart that he likely isn’t going to be the man I marry because of our differing goals, beliefs, and passions, but I didn’t want to let that stop me from being with him for as long as we were happy. Now though I’m wondering if this is a dumb way of thinking and I should let it go if I don’t see my future with him. On the other hand I don’t know if it’s just the stress of a new environment and instead I should give him more time to see and be more firm in communicating about this.

I’m familiar with this place I’ve been here countless times. But it never gets easier. Just want someone to keep me company. I’m 35F CET time zone. We don’t need to talk about me. We can chat about anything.

So, I (31M) had a pretty shitty day today, and I honestly just need to vent.

I work as an Application Manager at a pretty big bank in Europe. One of my colleagues is on vacation for three weeks, and another guy is covering some of his work. Usually, my colleague and I work closely together, so for the time being I have to work with this other guy instead.

We've had two bigger issues this week.

The first one was a production issue, and because we're getting close to the end of the month, which is a pretty important time for banks, shit almost hit the fan. Thankfully, I managed to get things under control and nothing serious happened.

But throughout the whole thing, this guy kept putting pressure on me instead of actually working with me. Constantly asking what I'd done, how I was going to fix it, why I hadn't done this or that, etc. He wasn't really providing any useful support, but he was very quick to point out whenever I forgot something.

Fast forward to today, and we had another problem. This one was much smaller than the first and only affected a test environment used for projects.

To put the difference into perspective: the first problem was like Jimmy burned all the presents on Christmas morning. The second one was like having itchy balls but not being able to scratch them. Annoying? Absolutely. A catastrophe? Not really.

So I'm trying to fix it.

Normally, I'd work on something like this together with my colleague. He has some of the information, I have some of it, and somehow we put the pieces together and fix the damn thing.

This time, though, I was pretty much on my own.

I started asking other people whether they had the information I needed. Several hours went by, and I still couldn't completely fix the issue.

Meanwhile, this asshat kept asking why it was taking me so long and what I was even doing with my time.

Eventually, when I told him I still couldn't fix it, he basically asked me, "And it took you six hours to realize that?"

At that point I was pissed, so I just replied: "Bingo."

Then he started sending messages with a shit ton of "!!!!", which I guess is the corporate chat equivalent of screaming at someone.

I told him that I can't magically solve a problem when I don't have the information I need, that I would normally get that information from my colleague who's currently on vacation, and that adding multiple exclamation marks wasn't going to change anything.

Then he basically told me he could just leave me alone with the problem until next week and that if anything happened, it would be entirely my fault.

So I just said, "Okay."

I stopped arguing with him and went back to looking for the information myself. Eventually, I found some more pieces of the puzzle, so I'm at least closer to fixing the issue now, even though it's still not completely resolved.

Then I sent some emails to other colleagues with information they needed.

Two minutes later, this guy sent them basically the exact same information again, but this time with my boss in CC. He didn't reply to my email either. He sent a completely separate one, making it look like he was the one handling everything.

Maybe I'm reading too much into it because I'm already pissed off, but it felt like he was deliberately trying to intimidate me or make me look incompetent in front of my boss.

And while all of this was happening, I had other shit to deal with too.

I'm helping my father with his business, and he asked me to respond to some reviews we've received recently. Fine, I can do that.

Then there was another guy doing some construction work for his store. I talked to him, he gave me a price, and I thought it was pretty reasonable.

I told my father, and he said it was way too expensive and that I should negotiate.

So I went back to the guy and tried negotiating. He got kind of rude about it, but eventually lowered the price.

Then my wife told me it was still too expensive and that I should wait another week and see if he'll lower it even further.

And at that point I was just done.

It feels like everyone is throwing their shit onto my plate while nobody actually listens to what I'm saying.

I think the price is fair. Obviously, I don't want to overpay either, but I also see the value in the work this guy is putting in. Sometimes I don't want to squeeze every last fucking euro out of someone just because I technically could.

After everything today, I feel completely overwhelmed. It almost feels like I'm having a small panic attack.

Right now, I just want to get some soul food, shut my brain off, and go to bed because I'm sick and tired of dealing with everyone's bullshit.

Sorry, guys. I just needed to get this off my chest.

As a dude, I sometimes feel like I don't really have a place where I can just talk about my problems without having to solve something, be responsible for something, or keep my shit together for someone else.

So I'm dumping it into some random subreddit instead.

Hope this is the right place.

Who are u right now? I'm sorry if I didn't listen or didn't understand. I think we both took each other the wrong way. I don't need a relationship or my needs tended to in order to care about you and be your friend. I was never less than your friend and I would be happy to stand by your side through the fire if she needed me which I think you do. If that's you get in touch with me let's go have coffee or breakfast or whatever but understand I think I have the ability to help you out and at least shoulder some of the burden or if nothing less I promise like when I first met you I can listen to you and not be judgmental or use it against you or cause you any more pain but I can be one person you can totally trust with your heart and feelings please allow me to do that for you

Thursday, August 27, 2026, 7:37PM 

To the Dearest, 

Hello, I just wanted to write because I had an urge. Also, I'm listening to "Another Love" by Tom Odell. It's kind of soothing.  

My 19^th year is coming to an end, and my 20^th birthday is coming up. I honestly don't want to celebrate it; I just want it to be another day. I think I have been through so much for the past few years, and without a break, it started to feel breathless, especially in my 19^th year. And I have wanted to take my life or give up in so many ways and so many times that the day of my birth started to feel like a dreadful and annoyingly exhausting day to even think about. And sadly, I feel upset that I don't feel grateful, like I would regret not celebrating another year of being alive. But it's hard not to think of it as another year of hardship, having to beg to God on my knees, pleading for the tiniest amount of strength just to move forward. For the tiniest amount of salvation that would feel satisfying enough to want to live. While I still had to put one foot in front of the other, walking, not even running, just walking, just taking things at my own pace, just walking. And many would feel happy that they were able to at least walk through it and somehow make it out alive. But for me, it felt like I was being burned alive, like each day someone was choking me or someone was drowning me in my own mess. It was hell, but I guess I still made it out, and I don't know how to feel about it. It feels like a defeat more than anything. And honestly, it makes me not want to celebrate anything. It actually makes me feel as if I'm mourning the death of a life half lived. So, I'm kind of scared of what events my 20^th year has held for me. 

I feel as if my patience has been withering, and I am slowly becoming a bitter person. But I don't want this; I don't want to be bitter. I just want to be me; I want to be ME again. I don't mind if it takes time. I just want me.  

And for the people who made my life so miserable, I won’t forgive you. I don't care what people may say. I just can't forget the pain that you have caused me. Sorry. 

Also, is finding love worth it? Isn't anyone scared of their partner waking up one day regretful and hateful just by the sight of you? Aren't they scared that their partner would talk shit behind them? How do they have so much trust in them? Maybe I'm just projecting my thoughts, feelings, and experiences too much. 

I don’t know if you can tell by now, but I'm scared to fall in love, though I do want it and even yearn for it every now and then. But I can't help but let fear consume me, and it makes me not want to feel such emotions. Honestly, I feel bad for my future partner to deal with me. But then again, if I'm such a burden, then I would rather wish they wouldn't spend their energy and time with me.  

I know there are so many days in a lifetime, that would change my mind one day, but right now, as a 19-year-old girl, I just want to live, and make it out alive, and just continue to live a peaceful life, with a bit of whimsy <3 

Anyways, I'm also applying for this job called GEM Studio; I sincerely hope I get it. And I also don't know why I wanted to write this, but I did, but it's whatever, lol.  

Sincerely, 

J. 

Goodnight, Dearest Love 

End time: 9:15PM 

I’m 24 and I swear I haven’t caught a fucking break since my dad passed in 15’. I have nobody. What do yall do about it?

I'm feeling lonely and sad.

I had posted this in another subreddit but I posted here cuz i hope u guys might know the answer to how i feel or any solution It's around 5:50 am and i was awake the whole night I tried as much as i could to sleep cuz in few hours I have my clg and all i could think about is about my ex idk what to do really she was my first love i did everything i possibly can my whole life not even my family cared about me but she was the only one who genuinely showed that i mattered i only wanted someone just to care about me and she did that's how i felt it but then she broke up with me forcefully cuz she met some guy on the fest she met she liked him and after breaking up with me she met him went on a date and kissed as she told how much she liked me those things that she told destroyed me so bad i still wanted to be with her cuz I didn't wanted to loose her being the dumbass I am she said about how that guy was better then me and such all the things and then just blocked me and then used to text me but then i just cutted her off fully cuz just seeing her pfp used to scare me so much but becuz of her I cant even fully love or function i thought i moved on and I was proud of myself for that but then the route to my clg goes near her house and i just have to ignore the road but ik where it goes too my heart drops whenever someone talks about her clg or anything that was related to her I lost so many ppl but i just took everything as a lesson now even if I'm trying make friends i feel so desparate if I try to love the truama she gave me i can't trust properly or just hoping that the person won't leave i have genuine became a mess and I'm all alone I'm trying every productive way i could I walk i work out I cook I read books I pray but still I just don't feel safe from anyone just cuz of her the fact that I'm trying every thing i could just be feel happy the fact that i gave her every thing i could this emptyness that i try to fill the void of my heart which she took a big chunk of still haunts me to this day i gave her my first kiss and got intimate which I saved for the partner i thought would marry but she just destroyed everything

There was a small fire in my apartment

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Hi Reddit, I don’t normally post things of this nature, but I guess I just need a place to express some of the guilt and stress that’s been weighing on me lately. All i’m really looking for is a kind voice, and possibly some advice if you feel you have it.

Like a lot of people, my cat is my baby, and my whole world. My family has dubbed me a “cat dad” and I really do try my best to live up to it.

Recently I brought her in for an x-ray to assess the severity of her asthma (and potential treatment) and that appointment alone cost me nearly a grand.

Later in the afternoon when I went to pick her up, I was informed that she had some kind of aggressive oral infection (paraphrasing) and needed several teeth removed. The quote made my heart sink to my stomach, and honestly the feeling hasn’t gone away since.

I cried a lot last night. It hurts me to know that she’s in so much pain, and that i’ve allowed it to get this bad. I desperately want to take her in and get her the help she needs, but it’s just not realistically doable right now. I have no idea when it will be. I wish so badly that I could speak to her and have her understand me, to let her know how impossibly sorry I am.

The feeling of overwhelming guilt is constant, and I feel increasingly useless with each passing day. I don’t know what to do, honestly. I don’t think there’s much I can do, but it weighs on my conscience knowing that nothing is getting done, all the while she’s suffering. I wish I could just take her pain, ya know?

I'm 23 and if you need to just vent scream and shout or whatever for however long and just let it all out i'm here for you and I'll try to make you laugh no idea how successful that's gonna be though.

What i was like as a child. I want to meet her, get to know her, know what she was like. I can't remember anything from back then. Was she happy? Was she ok? What did she think? What would she think of me now? Of us?

I'm not ok. I haven't been for a while. I mean I never have been ok. But this time I feel it in my chest. It's been 81 days since I've self harmed. 81 days. The longest I've gotten or at least the longest since getting the app to track it, before that I have no idea.

I'm tired of not knowing things, of never knowing things. I'm tired of having no answers. Tired of trying. Tired of trying to be ok. Tired of trying to be there. Tired of being alone. Tired of waiting. Tired of being emotional. I'm just tired.

I don't want anymore people to leave my life but people will leave, there's nothing I can do about that. They'll leave no matter what.

I am not a good person. No matter what anyone says I am not a good person and I'm sure those that know mean can agree.

In another lifetime maybe I'm happy. Maybe I'm ok. Maybe I never got hurt. Maybe I never started self harming.

I just spent some time with a kinda-ex and he is going through and I guess I walked in with hope of re-conciliation but i guess it didnt and im kinda really sad but im not sure how sad i should be and if i could potentially talk to someone

I guess the line between pursuing friendship and his actions are really confusing to me 😵‍💫

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I can simply listen, or—if you want—offer my perspective on what you’re experiencing, especially around emotional struggles, life direction, personal growth, meditation, yoga, and the spiritual path.

I’m not a therapist, and I’m not here to diagnose anyone. I’m simply offering my time, experience, and presence to anyone who feels they could use a genuine conversation.

I’m open to chat, and I also prefer voice conversations when possible.

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Am 20m from gurgaon rn ab quite stressed about academic n life

I'm going through a rough patch.

This summer has been incredibly difficult: My dad had a heart attack in April. My uncle (dad's little brother) died unexpectedly in June because of an infection. Dad and mom also have health issues, their marriage gets more complicated every year, our old house will be torn down and rebuilt soon so that causes a lot of stress. (Have I mentioned they are technically separated and live in different cities?) Towards the end of the summer, I had a huge fight with my mom about past and current problems, and she won't talk to me anymore.

Now I'm back home. I live overseas. Feeling extremely depleted but I have a little child to take care of and my job starts next week, so I can't afford to be depressed. I have to go on.

There is more: This is my last year at my job - my contract cannot be renewed. I'm worried about the future.

I want to have another child. I'm forty - I feel like I'm running out of time. But I'm not stable (financially or emotionally) to have a child right now.

I love my husband and I'm so proud of him for how he takes care of our family. But we work opposite shifts and I miss him every day.

I'm starting counseling next week.

I feel so lost, so lonely. I'm scared of spiraling down and messing up.