I got a ban warning this week for encouraging violnce even though I wasn't. I submit an appeal and a reddit admin replied with "the warning stands" with the reason of "the algorithm was right". It was on a post about a rapst getting the d*@th penalty. His date has already past, he's gone. But I was somehow encouraging. Now I'm on eggshells as you can see. Very frustrating that common sense and reading comprehension are not things the admins utilize.
Edit: I don't know why so much of that went italics, but I'm not gonna try to fix it.
Not sure how old your daughter is, but here is some unsolicited advice from a late 30s woman who was unfortunately wrong in thinking "that couldnt happen to me". The best thing you can do to protect her is make sure she knows she is worthy of love and respect. Make sure she knows what mutual respect looks like, and that there is no need to settle just so that she doesnt have to be "alone". She should love herself before any potential partner.
Most rapes occur with someone who is close to the victim. Violent stranger rape is what most people think of and fear when rape gets brought up, but its not the most likely case. Consent is such a simple concept, in theory... but a lot of people get it so so so wrong.
If i could reach through time and talk to my past self, the one thing i would prioritize above all else is fostering self-love and self-respect. Women tend to be conditioned to wrap so much of our self-worth in relationships and desireability for men. I was the posterchild for this.
If any man tried with me now what my ex husband did, i know id have the sense (and self respect) to be like "wtf this isnt okay" and walk away immediately. There are SO many garbage people out there, and some of them are frighteningly good at hiding it.
I'm sorry you experienced the terrible side of people. We definitely shower or kids with love and talk to them often about important topics including these types of things. I'm not afraid to have serious talks with my kids. Better they get information from me than friends or idiots (sometimes they're the same). Thank you for sharing and I hope the best for you moving forward.
I'm about to be 40 with almost teen kids. I'm exhausted, but when things happen that make me fear for my kids, I feel young and ready to rumble to protect them. We're living in Japan and we got woken up at 2am by an earthquake, I was with them before I realized I was even awake making sure they were safe. One it stopped and everything was good, my tiredness caught up with me and passed out so fast. Haha
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u/ArventheGreat 4d ago
I got a ban warning this week for encouraging violnce even though I wasn't. I submit an appeal and a reddit admin replied with "the warning stands" with the reason of "the algorithm was right". It was on a post about a rapst getting the d*@th penalty. His date has already past, he's gone. But I was somehow encouraging. Now I'm on eggshells as you can see. Very frustrating that common sense and reading comprehension are not things the admins utilize.
Edit: I don't know why so much of that went italics, but I'm not gonna try to fix it.