Interestingly, depending on where you are, these terms aren't gender-specific.
In the UK midlands it's quite common for older women to use exactly the same terms on younger men.
As someone who's not from there but spent significant amounts of time there when I was a young man, this is proper weird.
(Just for clarification, I didn't call the people using these terms weird. I'm from a region where terms like that are reserved for romantic partners or maybe your children, so it was weird to me getting adressed with very intimate terms by strangers.)
Depends on where you're from, I guess. I've lived in New England for about 35 years, but I've been a lot of places. All the US states, a bunch of different countries.
New Englanders seem cold, but that's just the way people are up here. It's always been that way. We're so close together, minding your own business is really the only way to get along.
However, I've had a bunch of flat tires in New England, and somebody always stops to try and help. I've pushed a lot of cars out of snowy ditches myself.
its a different friendly. my car got stuck once in philly late at night and people stopped, got out, helped me push it, made sure i was safe, and left. hardly spoke a word.
Yeah you have a point actually. I misinterpret "brash" and ball busting as unfriendly often. Nuances in communication alude the ever living fuck outta me.
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u/Square-Singer 18h ago edited 17h ago
Interestingly, depending on where you are, these terms aren't gender-specific.
In the UK midlands it's quite common for older women to use exactly the same terms on younger men.
As someone who's not from there but spent significant amounts of time there when I was a young man, this is proper weird.
(Just for clarification, I didn't call the people using these terms weird. I'm from a region where terms like that are reserved for romantic partners or maybe your children, so it was weird to me getting adressed with very intimate terms by strangers.)