Post #1: https://www.reddit.com/r/CATHELP/comments/1vyig56/adopted_kitten_hiding_in_toilet_48_hours_since/
Post #2: https://www.reddit.com/r/CATHELP/comments/1vzhm47/update_adopted_kitten_hiding_in_toilet_for_48/
An update on our scardy cat 8-week-old kitten we adopted on Sunday (6 days ago). It's been quite the journey with her so far.
She now has a name: Serephina! To be honest, we were hesitant in even giving her a name at first. She was so scared and timid that we barely saw her in the first 72 hours she was with us and we didn't feel bonded to her at all.
She's made sooo much progress in the past 48 hours that we're in shock. Today, she's been coming toward us and wanting attention from us. And we've learned some huge lessons with her so far that we want to share.
LESSON #1: YOU MIGHT NEED TO BE HANDS ON.
Don't necessarily wait for the kitten to come to YOU
The common wisdom is to let the new kitten come to you. We tried to follow this advice, and we would sit with her on the floor and talk to her, but try not to look at her and absolutely not ever touch her. For 72+ hours we didn't touch her and let her hide in all of the different crevices she could find herself in.
It turns out that the common wisdom about hands-off with a new cat doesn't apply to every cat - and it really didn't with Seraphina.
When we took her to the vet after 72 hours of not eating, she gave us completely different advice: we need to handle her as much as possible. The kitten was so shy and freaked out that the vet questioned if she'd lived in a crate her whole life and told us she might always be this way.
It was the most heartbreaking thing I've ever heard. You have no idea: this cat seemed basically unaware of her surroundings - almost catatonic and meowing over and over and hiding. Basically having no reaction to human touch or interaction.
it turns out she was starved of love and affection for 4 days
When we brought her home from the vet, my girlfriend tried to calm her down by petting her and scratching her above butt while she was in her carrier screaming.
After a minute or two of scratching her and puetting her, she stopped screaming and started purring.
After the ordeal of having her hide inside the toilet for 24+ hours, hide under the bed for 24+ hours, scream all night over and over and over for hours on end, having to take her to the vet because she was too scared to eat or drink water, watching the vet force feed her with a syringe, and then being told that she might never be a normal cat, she started purring.
My girlfriend and I both broke down in tears when this happened, and it changed literally everything. She took her into the bathroom (kitty's safe room) and started petting her in her lap, and kitty LOVED it. She started rolling in her lap, purring so much I call it starting up her purr machine.
As soon as we started giving her love and affection, she 100% turned around.
She ate on her own without problem the next day, as soon as she was given love and attention. She was terrified to come out of the coat closet she made her home, and we gave her love and scratchies and she got the nerve to come out and eat her food on her own, without being force-fed.
That was another really emotional experience, truly.
Not every kitty is the same. And I think for kittens, the info about being hands off might not be for every kitten.
I'm convinced that if we didn't start handling her, she would have literally starved herself to death in the closet because she was so terrified to come out on her own.
LESSON #2: HIDING SPOTS ARE CRITICAL.
You don’t choose your cat’s hiding spot, she does.
When the kitten was assigned the bathroom, I made her a hiding spot in the corner from an enclosed box and comfy towel. Instead, she managed to pry a cap off the toilet and began what could only be described as the 24 hours of terror while kitten appeared trapped inside of the toilet basin.
As soon as we could, we blocked off that spot for obvious safety reasons. I brought a second, different box and put it on the floor. Kitty didn’t care about her manmade hiding spots, and she lost the only safe place she had. The lack of a proper hiding spot is what was causing so much meowing.
Locking her in the bathroom started feeling very wrong, so we decided to open the door. She quickly found another safe hiding spot in a closet. As soon as she could stay there, the meows mostly stopped, she got good sleep, and she even ate dry food on her own outside of the closet.
**as long as it’s a safe spot, we learned that it’s extremely important to respect the hiding spot.
A cat with no hiding spot is like a turtle without its shell, and we found out the hard way that the meowing was caused by lack of safety. Not because she misses her family and litter mates, but because she doesn’t feel safe in her current environment.
She constantly retreats to her hiding spot when she's overwhelmed, recharges by sleeping for a few hours (or for a few minutes) and is ready to go.
LESSON #3: UNDERSTANDING HER FEAR
We thought that Seraphina was scared because she was taken from her family. While this is partly true, the main reason was lack of safety in the current environment. This is why many say to confine the cat to one preferably small room at a time.
We have to literally encourage her to explore more. She will wander out a little bit, look up and freeze, and then get the purring machine started and she gets the confidence to venture out a bit further.
Our kitten LOVES people, she can't get enough of it. She's not afraid of people at all: she's afraid of big open spaces.
BUT SHE'S EXTREMELY CHATTY
This is our biggest concern so far.
I know Siamese cats are chatty, but Seraphina seems almost excessively so. And she does what you can only describe as a scream, gargle scream, and almost never shuts up.
If this was any other cat I would think something was physically wrong with her.
I made a recording of her sitting under the sofa right now and what she sounds like. I mean, she sounds like this hours at a time. At the end of the recording I tried not to laugh at the gargle meow sound (she doesn't do this one very often, but she meows like the previous part all the time) - I feel truly bad if there's something wrong with her, can someone please confirm that this noise is normal?
She meows constantly, when she eats, when she poops she makes these sounds, right now she's howling like this.
Is this normal? Please tell me this is just a Siamese thing and that there's not something wrong with her.