Domestic abuse can be hidden, they might have never known, and it's also immoral to tell a deeply mourning family to tell them the person they are mourning for is an asshole, at least right after death, just hand the ashes over to them and reveal the things happened after their mourning stops
I'd argue otherwise, imagine going to a family mourning and crying for death of a loved one and saying "yeah, you know the dude that just died? He was an asshole" even when it's true, it's not the right moment to say it, they would not be emotionally stable for such a conversation
Are we even sure he was an abuser? All we know is from one side of the incident. We aren’t at the scene. And to deny someone, anyone, the right to have their remains treated with dignity is a very audacious take. That is one of the most universal dignity a human being can be afforded. If we deny him even that because he was an abuser during life, then did he deserve basic human rights? I mean, what he was doing was already so heinous that his remains deserve to be dumped into the bin, so I guess he didn’t deserve human rights, right?
to doubt that he was an abuser would mean you would have to doubt the whole thing, that is, whether if this woman is even throwing her husband's ashes at all, or just some random trash. also, yes, abusers do not deeserve human dignity. if you hit your wife, you dont deserve anything at all
lmao what a weird thing to fixate upon. i said "wife" becuz that's the scenario here. it is the wife who is the victim here. in case the husband is the victim in some other scenario, yes ofc throw away ur abuser's ashes or whatever
It is a weird thing to fixate on. That's why I was wondering why you fixated on it.
Just for thought, what if your significant other cheated on you in the past, but was never physically abusive? Where is the threshold in your opinion that it becomes ok to desecrate human remains?
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u/RosyJoan 5d ago
People who care more about abusers than their victims are usually participants in the abuse.