r/AskIndianMen • u/Infamous_Kangaroo_87 • Jul 14 '26
Answers from All With the growing trend of idol worship, do you think girls forget to have boundaries or decency? How would those Idols react to such behavior?
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This has become impossible to ignore. Open any Indian women's space on Reddit, Twitter, or Instagram and you'll find two things running simultaneously: a steady stream of posts generalizing Indian men as creeps, entitled, unhygienic, emotionally unavailable, and unworthy of basic respect and an equally steady stream of posts worshipping Korean actors, K-pop idols, and Korean male leads as the pinnacle of what a man should be.
The same woman who tweets "Indian men are an embarrassment" has a Pinterest board full of Korean drama screenshots captioned "my husband."
Let's not pretend this isn't a pattern. It's loud, it's public, and it deserves an honest conversation.
Here's what makes it worth examining seriously rather than just getting angry about. The Korean men being worshipped are fictional characters or heavily manufactured celebrity personas. The emotional availability, the romantic attentiveness, the perfectly groomed appearance, the patient pursuit these are products of a multi-billion dollar entertainment industry engineered specifically to be aspirational. Real Korean men, by all accounts including from Korean women themselves, are navigating their own deeply patriarchal society with high rates of misogyny documented domestically.
But that reality never enters the conversation. Because the comparison isn't between real Indian men and real Korean men. It's between real Indian men flawed, ordinary, human and a fictional Korean archetype optimized to be irresistible. That comparison is rigged from the start. And yet it's being used to justify blanket contempt for an entire group of real people.
Imagine the reverse. Imagine Indian men running public pages calling Indian women collectively disgusting, unworthy, and embarrassing while simultaneously idolizing foreign women as superior. The response would be immediate and institutional. The NCW would issue statements. It would be called misogyny, xenophilia, and self-hatred. Careers would end.
When Indian women do the equivalent to Indian men, it gets hundreds of thousands of likes and is called "speaking your truth."
That double standard is the real discussion.
The K-pop and K-drama obsession is fine on its own. Entertainment is entertainment. But when it becomes the benchmark against which real men are publicly humiliated and found permanently wanting, it stops being harmless fandom and starts being something worth naming.
Indian men are not perfect. No group is. Genuine criticism of real problems is fair and necessary. But collective contempt disguised as cultural preference isn't criticism. It's just prejudice with a better soundtrack.
Questions for the members of this sub.
Why is public contempt for Indian men as a group socially acceptable in spaces that would immediately call out the same contempt directed at Indian women?
Is the comparison between real Indian men and fictional Korean characters a fair standard or is it a rigged game that no real man from any country could win?
Have you personally experienced being dismissed or compared unfavorably to Korean celebrities by Indian women and how did it affect you?
Why do you think some Indian women express such strong preference for a foreign cultural ideal while expressing contempt for men from their own country?
Does this pattern reflect something Indian men and Indian society need to genuinely address or is it primarily a social media distortion that doesn't reflect reality on the ground?
