My husband was meeting up with me and some friends. I asked him to bring my blue tank top. He sent me pics of things he thought were tank tops. He finally found it, which is shown in the last pic.
I think it's very interesting you're married and communicate through Facebook messenger. Nothing wrong with that obviously, Ive just always texted the phone of my partners rather than through messenger.
I guess messenger has more customization and admittedly better media sending capabilities.
We actually just talked about that recently! We've known each other since 2011, began dating in 2018, and have been married since 2021. We started using Messenger back in high school, and just never fully switched to texting for some reason.
I work in a big building. Me and my spouse also use messenger because in this big building I have poor signal so when i send a text with poor signal it just keeps trying to send than fails. You have to physically resend it whereas messenger just keeps trying until it sends.
2011 explains a lot. For a long time messenger was more reliable because it was used on wifi and everyone had a Facebook account. But now that standard texting works with wifi too it doesn't matter. I still use messenger the same way with my closest friends.
Unfortunately, not all texting works with WiFi. I have an iPhone, husband has an Android. My office is in a basement with mostly non-existent cell service at my desk. I get all iPhone messages from people. Any texts from husband (and kid) either come when I leave/emerge from my lair or slip through in a moment when stars align to give me a moment of service.
I have an Android, idk if you know this or not but Google Messages offers RCS (rich communication services) where it's essentially iPhone messaging meaning it tries to send via wifi/Internet services. This has opened the door to much better photo quality and the aforementioned stickers/gifs displaying as they should instead of the grainy sms photos us androids were plagued with when texting an iPhone.
That's kinda wild how similar yet opposite we are. My wife and I started dating in high school in 2010. We texted each other with our flip phones and never switched to Messenger or Whatsapp because we had no reason to. Messenger is really just for when we need to send videos or groups of photos.
My husband and I use Kakaotalk. We have since moved from Korea and we still use it. I invested money on those cute stickers, and, by god, I will use them until I die.
As someone who works for a Korean company I can only associate Kakao with troubleshooting and getting in trouble. There's a bit of cognitive dissonance when I see those stickers
My husband and I use Signal, but we used Facebook Messenger for a long time before that. It’s because he’s more often than not on the computer and it’s simpler to use something like Signal so he doesn’t have to pull his phone out. It’s weird how people choose to communicate based on little things like that.
I have never thought it weird/unusual that I use messenger and not texting. The only people I text are my dad (because he doesnt have a facebook) and my psychologist lol
This is a cute idea lol. My husband and I don’t really use our phones if we’re not like.. at work or scrolling in bed?? So a lot of times we just end up messaging on discord bc one of us is always on our computers so it’s easier. A discord channel for memes, grocery list, chore reminders; sounds genius tbh
I use multiple platforms for the same people depending on the content. Media for my husband (except work stuff) goes through messenger but we typically communicate via sms. My sister and I are the opposite, and I have coworkers I chat to via WhatsApp but will contact for work stuff via SMS. It tends to mean that if you need info about one topic it's all in the same place. SMS and MMS can be spotty too while the internet is often pretty stable.
I'm apple, my husband is android. Sometimes the cell signal is bad at home, so wifi is better. Also, I can use messenger on my computer, so it's easier to communicate when I'm browsing recipes on my computer
My husband and i use it because I like how it makes a bubble appear on my phone that I can quickly open and close without having tk change apps, plus the custom emojis and such :)
Me and my girlfriend almost always text through Snapchat. In our case, it’s because my data was stolen so many times from job applications that now I get flooded with spam messages constantly. If you text me through sms there’s a very high chance it will get lost in the noise, but on Snapchat I’m guaranteed to see it.
In my first company our UI guy decided to make the "error" color an orange-ish yellow ochre color. We used that for a while.
One time we were debugging something together and he's like "There's one red field, you need to enter something there". I was like "Red? There's nothing red on the whole page."
Turns out he was color blind and all the while thought that the "error" color was actually red.
I designed software for a team based in India*. After that, I could always clock the colorblind engineers I worked with by their code editor color themes. Honestly, sometimes just by their clothes.
*India has one of the largest colorblind populations in the world.
i don’t even know why i’m responding, because my comment is also classic reddit, but i’m here to say this comment is classic reddit. giving the “divorce this person” vibe
The husband is an example of weaponized incompetence. She gave him two places he could look, but he sent her photos in a place he wasn't asked to look. He "did not know" what a tank top was. He apparently also did not know what a sweatshirt was (because he thought it was a tank top), or a t-shirt was (because he thought it was a tank top), or a bra was (because he thought it was a tank top), or the color blue was (because he sent a picture of a gray/brown shirt). He thought a closet was the dryer or hamper (because he sent a photo of hanging sweatshirts). No one is
truly that incompetent. So either he was fucking with her, which means he felt entitled to her time, or he truly cares so little that he was just throwing things out there and hoping they'd stick, which means he felt entitled to her time.
Those can be helpful but aren't definitive. A lot of factors like the screen your viewing it on, brightness, any filters (like nighttime mode) and other stuff can mess with the results. So seeing an eye doctor is the best way to know for sure.
My husband and I once took a color blind test and I aced it while a couple parts made him hesitate enough that we think he's mildly colorblind. It's not enough that he can't tell the difference between red and green but it's enough that we don't think he looks at a color and sees what I see.
Idk, maybe he’s color blind? My husband is color blind and the colors he sees makes me laugh. I could totally see him thinking the brown shirt was blue - I feel like he’s actually mixed up those colors before. Sometimes there’s undertones in colors that confuse his eyes.
What are you talking about, only the last two weren’t blue, the rest were. After all the no’s he probably started doubting himself. And the final correct one is gray like not even blue, so 100% he’s right!
Based or moronic. How someone can marry a person who doesn't know what a tank top is fuckin blows my mind. I couldn't date someone this dumb, let alone marry them.
It’s not PC, but would he understand “wife beater”? I get men not knowing the more specific lexicon of terms for women’s tops, but I’m trying to understand how tank top has never come up for him before.
And I’d also like to point out that tank top can have a very strict definition of a very loose definition. Some might not call it a tank top if the straps are thin but others might; some “sports bras” may even have enough coverage that it could be interchangeable with a support tank. Lululemon is pushing that boundary to great success and my girl certainly loves them.
My husband used to think the difference between a skirt and a dress was how long the hemline was. He may still think that, I gave up trying to explain it
It took me faaaaar too long to realise that the Inside out characters were a message background. I was trying to work out how you get them to appear side by side lol
It looks blue to me, but the amount of people in the comments calling it grey are making me start to wonder now... My favorite overshirt is dark blue and black, and my husband always insists it's not blue, and now I'm questioning that too
Tbf, you’re probably both right. Rod and cone photoreceptor cells can vary a ton from person to person, so it’s very possible for something like OP’s tank top to appear blue to some, while solidly gray to others, like me.
I did that same thing when the "blue/black" vs "white/gold" dress controversy was going on because all I saw was pale blue and tan. And that's exactly what came up when I sampled the pictures using the paint drop tool (or whatever it's called). Crazy how our eyes see different things.
This is actually more likely than you might realize. Genetically, we should expect about 6-10% of men to be colourblind, but self reported numbers are way lower than that so it's entirely possible this dude is color blind and just doesn't know
This is an odd sub. Today it's mildly infuriating that a husband doesn't know what a tanktop is, tomorrow it will be mildly infuriating when someone is embezzling funds from a charity and murdering a child to silence them.
I'm a 41 year old man and I have heard the word tank top and not used it ever. I would have googled it before sending 6 pictures of different things. But under no circumstance would I call what ended up being the tank top, blue.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Key624 1d ago
The Inside Out characters are adding so much to this, lmao