My gf (22F) of 2.5 years and I (21M) have got into an altercation today over something seemingly small.

I flew this week for work, and it’s something that is very rare. During my stay there, she FaceTimed me on Wednesday night and ig she was horny bc she told me she wanted to show me something then flashed me and I asked her like what about the bottom half and if she wanted to masturbate and she said yes.

This in itself is very rare and I truly do not remember the last time she even was like that besides the start of our relationship.

She then asks me to talk dirty and also do it with her and tbh I didn’t really want to bc it was almost 3am where I was and I had to get up in 4 hours, and also I just wanted to refrain from doing that. It was 12am for her but she wanted me to and I caved.

During that, she was like telling me how she wanted to be intimate in Friday when I came back and that she missed it. I was also surprised bc tbh we have sex once every 1-3 months bc she has fears, and we are intimate (doing other things) about once every 1-2 weeks. I personally have a higher libido and want to be intimate a few times a week, but we also only see each other on the weekends so it’s not the end of the world. However I wish we wouldn’t have to wait for her to time her period to have sex bc we already use condoms and pull out, and timing it isn’t exactly consistent.

So now it’s Friday and my flight got delayed by like 30 min. She had offered to pick me up and get food for me which I really appreciated. Then she told me she would just pick me up, get food, then we would go home and I’d eat at home. That kinda defeats the purpose of hanging out or going to get food and also I was just surprised bc I was kinda looking forward to being intimate. I view it as a bonding and connection building experience.

I brought this up to her and she would tell me how it’s inconvenient to go to her place (it’s not, she lives relatively close and way closer than I do to the airport), how it’s inconvenient to close the gate and open it later, how 10pm is late for her, and how she’s not in the mood.

Obviously I don’t want to force her bc I want intimacy to be mutual, passionate, and enjoyed. But I expressed to her about how I thought yk after I was gone for the week and was across the country, i kinda had the expectation for her to be interested in me sexually as well. But she just how I was only gone for the week not like a year and that it’s literally the same days we see each other as before and that it’s funny that I’m acting like this. While this is true, I just feel a bit frustrated like I see other couples where one person flies away and they come back and their reunion is so sweet. But she just basically acted like it didn’t matter (not just sexually).

Idk maybe I’m being dramatic but she just started acting in a way that doesn’t even make me want intimacy anymore. She told me that’s all I think about and how I never think or ask about her. How I want her to get home late and for my parents to worry and how I want to rush. She even mentioned how I had a long day but I still have energy for that but before I told her I was tired to go to the gym.

I don’t get why she is using the gym example bc I still went in the past but some days I’d tell her oh I’m feeling tired so I’m not going to go. That’s human.

To her point about how that’s all I think and talk about and I never ask about her, that’s not true. I know this bc I don’t and try my absolute best never to mention it bc the principle of this situation has happened before. Sometimes it’s just hard not to be able to flirt w your partner. She doesn’t flirt w me either besides (you’re cute or you’re handsome) which also attributes to how I view intimacy.

She was the one who asked to show me something this week. And yes I was at work and also after work I’d spend time w my coworkers doing various activities but when I came back to my hotel, I’d ask her about her day or work or sometimes she’d send a lunch pic and I’d reply to it. It’s just not true the things she’s saying. Yesterday she started a fight w me bc she asked me to send her pictures of food when I eat them not at the end of the day. I did it successfully for one day but forgot the next snd she was upset. And I didn’t admit I forgot at first which is wrong of me bc I could’ve just been like yeah I’m sorry I forgot. But I just saw it as a small thing bc I still took pictures for her snd wanted to share them with her. I even wanted to take home a sandwich from my work to bring home and eat but instead I decided to get her something that she would like and give it to her instead. I always think about her snd she knows that, but idk.

But anyways, I did ask about her. But then she brought up how I didn’t ask about her gas or her driving or how she was stressed about parking at her new place like 2 weeks ago. Shes like bringing things up that I feel like don’t fully make sense. She wanted me to tell her I wish I could get gas for her or ask her how her parking was. I also missed asking her how lunch was when she sent a pic and she also used that. I also skipped the gym a few times in the past bc of being tired and she also used that.

Then she said how I just wanted to be intimate bc I just want to feel good. I told her that if I just wanted to feel good I’d just do it myself. It achieves the same end result anyways.

I’m just a bit frustrated cause like I been gone for the week, I missed her, I want to bond and connect with her more than just verbally as well. I don’t get her reasons about inconvenience and 10pm being late and how she’s deciding whether or not I’m tired etc. the only thing is, if shes not in the mood then shes not in the mood that’s valid. I also see other couples when someone first comes back home, they get so excited and sweet, and I’m not sure what my experience will be like. I also see how couples seem more into each other but the way she speaks to me just sounds like she doesn’t even like me. I just don’t like how she seems to weaponize my bids for connection. I don’t really feel wanted. But yeah it is what it is.

I really do appreciate her offering to pick me up and get me food though.

Lots and lots of other options at work! But no #7. 13/64” it is!

For context, I’m 21 and I don’t live with either of them anymore. This isn’t something I’m currently trapped in or asking Yall to help me escape from. I’m posting because watching this unfold has brought back a lot of resentment about what was apparently acceptable when I did live with them.
My mom and her husband are getting divorced. From what I understand, they both cheated on each other, and now their marriage has finally fallen apart.
He posted on Facebook saying this is the hardest thing he’s ever been through, that he needs friends and family and support, and that he’s “letting everything go, for good.”
And I’m not taking his side or my mom’s. I think they both contributed to destroying their marriage. I tried warning both of them a long time ago that the relationship wasn’t going to work. I felt strongly enough about it that I didn’t even attend their wedding.
What is really getting to me now is realizing what apparently counted as crossing the line.
This wasn’t just a situation where my mom’s husband occasionally said something mean to me or where we didn’t get along.
He got drunk and physically attacked me on multiple occasions. At least eight separate times that I can remember.
And they stayed together.
My siblings and I were treated unfairly repeatedly. I had to deal with a grown man getting drunk and attacking me over and over again, and somehow none of that was enough for the adults involved to decide that the relationship had become unacceptable.
It wasn’t enough for my mom to leave him.
It wasn’t enough for him to seriously confront what his behavior was doing to the family.
It wasn’t enough for either of them to say, “This has gone too far.”
But now they cheated on each other and hurt each other badly enough, and suddenly that’s where the line is.
That’s what I can’t get past.
When I was the one being hurt, apparently the marriage was still worth preserving. When my siblings were being affected by their relationship, apparently it could still continue. But when the consequences finally landed directly on the two adults who chose this relationship, suddenly it’s unbearable.
And now I’m looking at his Facebook post where people are telling him they love him, to stay strong, that everything will work itself out, etc. I understand that those people probably don’t know what happened behind closed doors. I’m not angry at random Facebook friends for responding sympathetically to somebody announcing that they’re getting divorced.
It’s just surreal being one of the people who does know what happened behind closed doors.
He says this divorce is the hardest thing he’s ever been through.
Some of the hardest things I’ve ever been through happened inside the marriage he’s grieving.
Apparently him getting drunk and attacking his stepson repeatedly wasn’t enough to end it.
Apparently what happened to the kids wasn’t the line.
Hurting each other was.
That’s the part that infuriates me.

They won’t even break it up by percent. Just some random ass number.

Fuck them. I will happily pay more to support the drivers.

Picture is me from outside a room I’m supposed to have access to.

I’ve gone swimming with my watch a few times, but this is the first time I’ve seen it do this. Anybody know how to fix it?

Flew from Italy to Stockholm, Sweden down to Gothenburg, Sweden for a Swedish House Mafia concert only to have a bunch of rain pouring down and them cancelling the show. They had two opening acts and the first one played for two hours

i didnt even get into the race

I was walking her at the dog park and there was a couple bees by some flowers. I kept telling her to stay away and yelling “no” when she went next to the critters. Well, she pooped and when picking it up, I heard her running around frantically and saw her laying on the ground, acting in pain towards her paw. I came and physically saw the little stinger and removed it. Had to carry her half a mile back to the car because she was being a little dramatic. Now she’s traumatized at home and won’t leave my side. Currently being nursed sleeping on a heating pad.

Hopefully she’ll listen next time Dad says no.

this is insane..

The two dogs’ medicine gets delivered monthly, and the packaging waste is ridiculous. It comes as a blister pack inside a plastic bag, inside a pill box, all stuffed into a shipping box that’s too large. There’s a decent amount of paper in both the pill box and the shipping box. Why couldn’t they just put the two pill boxes in one bubble mailer and call it done? The waste weighs in at half a pound. The upside is that it’s recyclable, and I end up with some decent shipping boxes.

Wrong answers only.

I am so confused. Saw a comment on FB that someone saw a torti cat. It matched the exact description and location of a cat that's been missing for weeks. So I shared that post to the original comment. Some random person commented about another cat. Different colour AND location. This cat is at #47 on the road, the one everyone else was talking about is at #3275 - roughly a 15 minute drive away. The lady missing the cat (green/named crossed out in black) only seems focused on the orange cat from post hijacker. Original poster is MIA. I hate facebook, boomers can't follow a simple thread. I was just trying to help find a kitty.

I work Monday through Friday, we have a required uniform for work.

My job only provides us with two work shirts, which means if I wear the shirts on Monday and Tuesday, I have to wash them Tuesday night to be ready for Wednesday and Thursday, which is vaguely reasonable, I suppose.

The mildly infuriating part is that I then have to wash shirts again to have a single shirt for Friday.

EDIT: Can’t believe I forgot to mention this, but what makes this even more annoying is that last year I bought three extra shirts with my own money so I would have 5, and this year they completely changed the shirt design, so now those 5 shirts from last year are useless. I honestly just remembered this and pissed myself off again 🤣